Are you getting the cold shoulder, but you don't know why?
Ignoring
someone is the proper and mature way to let them know (as I'm sure they
are already aware) that you do not want to deal with them but that you
are not going to let that negativity ruin your day. What's rude is
pretending to like the person and then bad-mouthing them. That is not
ignoring them, that is being unmannerly and very immature. In the end,
it's about how you see yourself as an adult; can you tolerate the
annoyance of having someone around you for a few hours? Or do you cave
under the pressure of worrying about how someone you dislike feels about
you? Ignoring isn't rude; sometimes it's just the best medicine. - See
more at:
http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/etiquette-manners/proper-way-ignore-someone?page=all#sthash.vQKeBqY1.dpuf
STEPS Is someone who's normally eager to speak to you now keeping your conversations to the bare minimum? This can be hurtful, frustrating, and confusing.
If you notice that this person is only acting quietly towards you and not towards others for an extended period of time, then you may have reason to be concerned.
Has this person done this before? Does s/he try to control or "punish" you in other ways?
CONFRONT
You want to feel like you said what you needed to say, so plan it ahead of time.
If the person is just in a bad mood, you might be able to lighten the mood with a little bit of playfulness.
If you believe you did something to offend or hurt the person, even if you're not sure what it is, Say something like, "I'm so sorry if I've done or said something stupid to you." This is one of the few times where it's okay to use the word "if" while attempting to apologize.
Use statements like, "I've really enjoyed spending time with you."
The cold shoulder is painful to the recipient. Let this person know that you do sincerely want to work things through, but if that's not going to happen in the near future, you may not continue "volunteering" to be frozen out.
Ignoring
someone is the proper and mature way to let them know (as I'm sure they
are already aware) that you do not want to deal with them but that you
are not going to let that negativity ruin your day. What's rude is
pretending to like the person and then bad-mouthing them. That is not
ignoring them, that is being unmannerly and very immature. In the end,
it's about how you see yourself as an adult; can you tolerate the
annoyance of having someone around you for a few hours? Or do you cave
under the pressure of worrying about how someone you dislike feels about
you? Ignoring isn't rude; sometimes it's just the best medicine. - See
more at:
http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/etiquette-manners/proper-way-ignore-someone?page=all#sthash.vQKeBqY1.dpuf
Ignoring
someone is the proper and mature way to let them know (as I'm sure they
are already aware) that you do not want to deal with them but that you
are not going to let that negativity ruin your day. What's rude is
pretending to like the person and then bad-mouthing them. That is not
ignoring them, that is being unmannerly and very immature. In the end,
it's about how you see yourself as an adult; can you tolerate the
annoyance of having someone around you for a few hours? Or do you cave
under the pressure of worrying about how someone you dislike feels about
you? Ignoring isn't rude; sometimes it's just the best medicine. - See
more at:
http://www.quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/etiquette-manners/proper-way-ignore-someone?page=all#sthash.vQKeBqY1.dpuf
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